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Aita for telling my husband i won t be calling him when i go into labor My mom wasn't happy about this and after my dad refused to give into Evelyn Beatrice being my full name, she asked for a coin toss and if she won she could call me Evelyn Beatrice and if my dad won, he could name me. Most people in my life don’t even know he’s not my bio parent. i talked about this with my husband and he completely agrees with whats best for me. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I think I may be the asshole for bringing our kids into it and telling him if he died it essentially was his fault. Your kid just knowingly took at least 3 fucking days worth of food from my kids mouths so I'd rather not see her anyways. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my wife I didn't want her weird friend to be around our house especially when she was away. “Hi everyone, daddy’s here!” “Oh. I leaned on my husband for so much mental support and to distract me through labor. simply because my baby was born a My husband is convinced that he can make it to the funeral and back before I go into labor, but it doesn't work that way. We live right next door to my husband's best friend. EDIT 2: My whole extended family does not go every year. I feel like if my sister stopped trying to call him then my mom would help. AITA for telling my husband I won’t be going to his birthday dinner since he asked if I would leave early anyway? It’s normal to go into labor from week 37, so he should be staying sober just in case. My husband got a call from her in the middle of the night and asked him if he could drop her at the hospital her brother was at (an hour away from us) since she was too scared to drive. 3 years ago he wanted to quit his job and take care of the house and children (6f and 2m). Erica has rights as a resident, which includes inviting guests over. I had explained to him that I did and that it was no personal issues I had with him, and that having any men around me during a state of vulnerability like child labor would be extremely triggering. I asked him if OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my husband I will not attend his family events anymore because they do not like me. I packed up our three kids, two of which are toddlers, and took them with me to our oldest’s 3 hr long competitive sports practice. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I didn't make my kids go with my ex's wife and didn't invite her and her kids inside to spend time with them here. Soon after our relationship ended, I met my now husband and we got married when son was 3. I then told him that from now on out I won't cook for him anymore since he made his choice. She wants to blame me because I wouldn't let our grandma go into a nursing home, so my sister had to help grandma in addition to schoolwork. I heard her complaining about how she couldn’t hold my baby. I Set your boundaries early and do not go back on them. Also, I'm not the most healthy person so maybe someone can correct me, but going to the gym 4 times a week doesn't seem excessive. I told hubby he and our children can still have a relationship with her i just wont be part of it, and told him that his mother is not welcome at the hospital after i give birth- but only the hospital, if he chooses, she is free to come visit as soon as we get home for all i care cause i can just go lay down Told my husband I won't be staying with him and his kids as long as the baby is still small because I can't handle them and their lack of boundaries. So, while I can totally understand your viewpoint, I probably wouldn't have told my husband that. He still has things that he owns alone which isn't bad since money has never been an issue. I told him when she learns to respect me, she will get another opportunity. Phone call ends, my son is crying and fussing. My husband would be working 5 part time jobs while waiting for a full time job if I was pregnant and we had bills jacked up. I feel like I'm maybe an asshole for telling him that when he is trying now and making an effort to fix things and apparently wants to. So, the thing is my husband is a stay at home dad. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my partner that I don’t want to tell his mom when I go into labor, but want my mom to know when I go into labor. He knew what would happen if he cheated but he did it anyway and ended up destroying his family, home, and career. I never impede him if he wants something spicy or something I don't like. I got really upset because then our kid is like “it’s fine mom, don’t be mad, we’re okay” and she mentioned the other day that we’ve been fighting more. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I purposely ignored my husband‘s calls to watch a movie when he was struggling to settle our baby, because I didn’t want to have to go home and put him to bed It's weird that her response was for him to go live on his own instead of telling him to cook his own meals. We have four kids together. It's his idea since he had a divorce before. Then see if you can stay with your Bff for awhile or go move where your family is. I asked my girlfriend not to call my dad doctor and I won’t tell them to call her doctor. He's been trying to contact me for a few days now, apologising, but I don't want to speak to him. If that doesn't include you, no worries! Check out /new for other posts that are still open for comment. AITA for telling my husband I am not attending any more meals at my in-laws? My BIL decided that my spouse's doctor's orders weren't real and tricked my spouse into breaking those orders. Its crazy. "Besides you, she was the closest friend in my life. But a couple weeks ago she called me(54f) and she was crying, I asked her what was wrong and she said she had to go back to the hospital she gave birth at because AITA for calling my husband useless? It won't make my job any easier it will just make his life easier while making sure I have to now pay for all of his expenses. He pays regular child support, however, it dips into his fun money and he wants to be able to have fun like I The author then lashed out at her spouse, telling him that her daughter came home to study for exams, not to clean up after him. and their half brother is 3 years old. she informs me that my niece won't start pushing until I get there. His dad saw me and told him. :( I don't blame her a bit for being extremely pissed at him. My sister blew up on me and told me that I interrupted her sleep for something as minuscule as nausea when I didn't even go into labor. An hour and 15 minutes later, MIL shows up at the hospital without my mom, my kids or my grandmother. In the end, I said they could prove they were sorry by forwarding me the $100k my degree and college expenses were, just like they did for my brothers. I got a text message from my MIL for calling me an A for not helping my husband clean up the house and putting my BIL in a uncomfortable position by having my mom boss him around. Everything changed after marriage and I couldn't tell you why. NTA. I broke down. Tell the husband he has 2 days to get the earrings back that his kids stole or you're going to the cops about it. I was trying to get away and telling him I was sorry. Last night at 2:00AM she called about her heat not working right. We visited Peter’s family often for the next few months. My mom said he was great dating, but he turned mean on their wedding night. it’s her raging out of control hormones and not the giant wake up call So my husband comes from a 'traditional' family. But now, his mom’s been pressuring him, saying it’s her grandchild too and she helped bring him into the world. Also, please show him this post, so he can see how absurd his “demands” are. He probably won't Care anyway. ” Don’t even look up from a book, phone, laptop, whatever. When I went into labor I had the most difficult time of my life, I was in pain for hours. I made sure to inform the staff about my situation, and they handled it amazingly. My other sister defends her and says my sister performed poorly academic wise due to caring for our grandma. You have to decide if that's enough for you. I would make it blatantly clear if he is not there for the birth of your child, you won't be there when he comes back. He’s Hispanic and his family is ALWAYS asking us to do a big crazy wedding. My husband used to clean up after himself but after marriage he just completely stopped with no warning. And also, I’d never do that to anyone else. I told him I warned him many times. My husband (21M) and his brother (25M) have always had a great relationship. When a post is in POO™ mode only users with enough subreddit comment karma are able to comment. She went through his phone and called me and then my mom crying. He agrees. He didn't show up luckily, as he was not aware I was in labour, but I have told him now, and he's met her. Her boyfriend (who lives with her) is still at the hospital. NTA OP. I was still uneasy about the pregnancy and borderline miserable for the next 6 months. They eventually moved, leaving my husband and I with the house. I literally just lost it on him and yelled at the top of my lungs calling him a cruel insensitive jerk to be using the difficult experience of birthing his child as a . I call my husband my husband because we’re married in practically every way but with an actual marriage license. With my first baby I was truly mean to my husband I couldn’t stand him him even tapping his feet made me so mad two months after having the baby and my hormones were better I apologize and still don’t know why I was so mean They go to some new fangled gifted school that does not believe in assigning homework. Things came to a head this past weekend when he told me that he wants to get together with one of his oldest friends to celebrate the friend's 40th birthday. Do not pass go. AITA for calling my husband stupid and threatening divorce over co-signing the loan Maybe you are confused, this rule applies to him, not her. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be the asshole for telling my son I would cut him off because he is a grown man who can make his decisions and he is my son, I could suck it up and just let it go. The fact that he listened to a bunch of total strangers telling him about his fiancee's feelings but wouldn't listen to her telling him directly is a bad look. She also texted my Husband telling him I was in labour, but he didn't reply. Do not collect $200. He followed me back here and I kept telling him to get out. "AITA for not telling my husband's family that I speak their language?" fussing over my son. For many (most?) women, pregnancy & labor will be one of the most medically risky things they go through. So when I got pregnant with my daughter, my husband started in immediately telling me that I should have a home birth. He will agree in exchange for unsupervised visits. AITA for telling my husband he gets no say in how i give birth . He started calling my phone relentlessly til I turned it off. I get instantly irate. If I'm rambling, it's because I've held this in for so long not wanting to burden friends or family with my marital troubles. I find it weird that this doesn’t upset him more than you picking the names. I would also def not kick him out of the house. AITA My husband sat me down 5 days ago and told me he hadn't been completely honest with me. I 34F have been with my husband (37M, we'll call him Nathan) for 8 However not telling your husband that you are in labor and him not being able to be there is somewhat an AH move. Call him when the baby is born and you're ready to see him (don't make him wait too long, of course, since i decided at that moment that i wouldnt be telling my family my due date or when i was in labor. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be the asshole because my parents are upset that I won't let them see the kids because they don't accept my 10 year old as their grandchild. She yelled at me for saying that and that my wife is a fucking bitch for manipulating me into this marriage. We don’t have the time, and we’re simply just not parent material. His presence would be stressful and stress can stall labor. My mom burst into tears, my dad said I wasn’t being serious and I just left. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. He went two nights ago and stayed out until nine am. My husband and I have been together for 4 years. He tried to defend himself, saying he had an urgent meeting, but the woman said that she knew that it wasn’t the first time it had happened and that he could’ve easily cleaned up afterward. When I finally gave birth a few hours later my mother let him know via text, he simply replied with Ok. My husband (35) and I have been married (33) for 9 years but have been together for 18 years. And if you go into labor while he's gone, don't tell him. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. 2 years into the marriage he cheated on her and they have 2 kids. Last week, she showed up with a hospital bag for herself, AITA for calling my ex-husband and telling him that his wife force our daughter to babysit? Not the A-hole My(34F) ex-husband (40M) married a woman (36F) with 4 children (1M, 11&11F, 14M) six years ago, we have a mutual daughter (15) who has told me before how she tries to ''impose'' a relationship between her and her step-siblings. Throwaway My English is a work in progress so just a warning I’ll call my “brother” mike and my ex Tammy 10 years ago my than fiancé left me at the alter (most humiliating thing I’ve ever been through) and went on our honeymoon with mike in her note she told me she loved him since high school but he was never interested so she used me to get to him. If he thinks therapy will be a waste of time, then it will be. And will bleed you dry emotionally and financially if you let her, in her current state. i had just recently given birth a few weeks ago and i had told none of my family about the matter. Follow the link above to learn more I get home from work today after working a 12 hour shift and my husband and son are not home. I took the box my husband brought out the fridge and placed it on the kitchen island alongside other containers. My mom was with me but she had to go and my husband was with me the entire time. So far it looks like he values the friend, ass_smasher69, and his fiancee in that order. There have been! I can't link anything right now but there was a couple that divorced and the dad took her to court to stop her from using their kids image for profit (don't ask me the logistics of it it's been a few years so I don't know) And I believe one of the family vlogs that kept adopting kids was finally sued by one of their oldest. My ex has been supportive of our relationship and thinks my husband is a great stepfather. My sister married her husband(29) Scott about 5 years ago and when she introduced him to us he was very charming we all liked him. While I was working I recieved a video call via whatsapp from my husband while at work feeling bored asking what I was doing. The baby is going to come when it wants to, not when it's convenient for him. Subreddit Announcements. This includes not calling anyone crazy, nuts, insane, psycho, mentally ill, a narcissist, etc. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be that AH because I told my dad I won't see him anymore if he continues bringing his wife around who treats me like a ghost when she's there. My innocent brain answered ‘ I want to call him Dad, because if he’s married to my mum that makes him my Dad’ all these years later he is the best Dad I could have ever asked for. None of the chores have been done and my son’s project pieces are on the table not even started. Don't ever say what someone won't do. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my friends gf I won't stop staying over at his house even if it makes her uncomfortable 2. In the morning, I told my husband that my mom would pick up our daughter from summer camp and offered to watch her for a week. I watched my husband go inside leaving his Keychain next to me (right where he was sitting) I took it and rushed to the back where all cars were parked, got into the car and drove off. For example, when my husband died I haven't called him by his nickname since. And im pregnant. I told her and my husband she's not holding my daughter again until she stops disrespecting me. My husband on the otherhand rolls over on me while sound asleep and never realizes. I was in labor for 26 hours and was in alot of pain as I didn't take an epidural. He insists that I can do it, because I don't have to work tomorrow. Reminder to those in the comments: I AM NOT OOP. My husband worked hard to unlearn the values he saw replicated at home. I obviously pissed him off because he went off on me calling me childish and pathetic to make this about my "ego". My husband and I are unfortunately yet fortunately going to get a divorce, and he was not in the delivery room during my birth. Harry has autism, so naturally he has a set of special needs (zooms for OT and Speech) that I am more than happy to accommodate (because his mother Lily gave up these clases because they inconveniences I asked him to go get evaluated for adhd but he hasn’t yet. Wtf he is a grown ass man. I come from the opposite - my mother pretty much forbade from ever being financially dependent on a man and drilled that into me early on. AITA to telling my wife to stop calling herself a mother . Hi sperm donor. It didn't go well and my SD's reaction was to cry. Ever since our daughter (3F) was born, I have been unable to trust Nathan with I told my husband this, and at first, he was supportive. Since moving in, this dude is calling my husband multiple times a day to go off somewhere with him (store, another buddies house, downstairs to smoke, have a fire, etc). Go LC with IL's and therapy for your husband, if he doesn't see you as anything but an incubator and "mama" you will suffer for years and He is barely tolerant of my extended family (he doesn't like their conversation topics, saying they all talk about themselves, they only talk about 'old people things', they say the same things every year, afaik they have never said anything rude to him personally but he still isn't crazy about my side) and will just kind of hang out and talk A few days after I wrote, I called my father. I told him to go to bed and leave me alone. You started with the money and not the labor separation. What did you think was going to happen? Consider challenging him to go off video games for 6 weeks. He spoke with the receptionist at his job and asked for you are nta for not telling your husband you went into labor. Start by not paying HIS debt. I know this was bad but some of the stuff I said to him was what I could remember I believe my brain blocked out most of what he did to me because I journal Tell your husband NOT YOUR CIRCUS AND NOT YOUR MONKEYS!!!!! There is a huge difference in assisting versus enabling. Mum's a SAHM, father was sole provider. See if Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. "AITA for telling my husband that I will divorce him tomorrow because he doesn’t clean anymore?" I'm at my wits end. I (30F) and my husband (33M) babysit our nephew (let’s call him Harry) 3 days a week for 12 hours a day, for free as a favor to my BIL James. So sorry you won’t find any sympathy here. he also asked my daughter but she locked herself in Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I'm so glad to see this! My real dad was unfortunately the abuser. My husband takes him back into the living room to calm him down, but after half an hour comes up and asks me to do it, since he is tired and wants to sleep, and he has to work tomorrow. The third was born during 2020 and my husband wasn't allowed to leave the hospital, so one friend stayed with the kids for three days when we expected it to be a All my clothes can go into the dryer, and I make sure I never leave things in my pockets before throwing something in the laundry basket. He finally let go and chased me around my kitchen. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. I’m going to go cry into a bag of lays chips. She would not have to tell him anything about what she does. Did a speed run to the hospital and no sooner do I walk into the room then my niece says "I don't want to do AITA If I don't invite my husband into labor and delivery? Throwaway, and I'd like to keep things relatively anonymous. My friends -- not even related to me! -- lived my house for several days during my last two labors. Because he won't go in wanting it to help. This is what I wanted before and I rejected the idea outright. AITA for telling our families that we won’t inform them when we go into labor I’m 37 + 1 and I’ve managed to offend both my father-in-law and my own mother because I informed them that we will not call or text them as soon as we head to the hospital once labor starts. Our fights consist of him doing something dumb, me calling him out (it isn’t always nice I admit) and him defending it. My mother called the ambulance and went with me to the hospital. My dad has not let up and when I blocked him after he refused to stop calling, he showed up outside my school last week and told me we needed to talk and he wanted me to move back in and graduation was this year and he needed info. My husband and I have talked about it, but we just honestly don’t want too. Every summer, my family takes a vacation to the beach. He then grabbed me and began choking me. we make the phone calls to MIL and my mom. Start by NOT watching his children when HE is NOT HOME. However, I go in to labor. I guess that may have consequences given OP is still a minor under their mother’s care, but it sure would remind him that he’s not their father figure and can’t buy his way into being I called my dad a hypocrite and told him family therapy won't fix us. It made me cry writing this out. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I called my husband a man child in the midst of being overwhelmingly frustrated and I tossed lemonade and fries in the sink next to him. We just don’t feel we need to. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I got upset with my husband for calling my family members names to me and I guess that might make me an asshole because maybe he should be able to vent to me She was fuming at my husband, and how they insulted our younger sister's name. We moved in here a bit over a month ago. He will help with bedtime process most nights so I will give him that. AITAH for telling my daughter my husband won't watch her kids when she had a medical "emergency" My daughter (29 F) had her third baby a couple months ago, and everything seemed fine. I told him that both him and his wife were out of line, and that any further attempts to overrule my and my husband's parenting will have consequences. A few weeks later I went into labour. But for about the last When I was pregnant, My husband once had a meeting with a client where it would have been inappropriate to bring his cell phone. Anytime things don’t go her way she goes straight to tears. We had dinner, and soon we left the house, wanting to settle into our new home. He made it clear he doesnt want to work it out and said we had a 10% chance of fixing the relationship. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my husband that I don’t care that he might not have a degenerative disease because all he does is complain about symptoms but refuses to go seek medical help. Recently, my husband and I took a trip to visit, mainly to see the other dog they took with them. He wouldn’t. I'm currently pregnant with our first baby and super emotional, Im always angry at my husband for every small stupid thing he asks or I'm crying for the smallest cute thing I see on instagram, but if my husband was in this situation. Or when I found his secrets but other people didn't know them and I didn't want to tarnish his reputation I tried to say, he was a good man or husband So a quick little backstory. I just found out my car’s transmission is fucked up and my warranty expired 17 miles ago. I showed him I was cleaning out the fridge and he suddenly freaked out and asked about the metal box. I don't know much about your living situation, but you appear to fall into the stereotypical personality traits of Get a call from my mom that my niece is in labor. Do not go to the original post to comment. Also when he whines tell him that you told him over and over again that there was a problem and he kept ignoring it, he let his kids abuse you, his ex wife abuse you and he never once stepped up to stop it from getting out of hand. Knowing this, you married him & got pregnant & are shocked that he doesn’t have a job & does nothing around the house. You can't tell who's right or who's wrong, there's always this ongoing tension between them but can be civil enough to sit together at one table. " she calls back a half hour later with "Where the hell are you?!" "At work" I tell her. Telling my mom to be ready and my MIL to go get my mother. My husband said he would go over and look at it after work. ETA: I’m not replying to anymore comments. My husband takes pride in being a SAHD. My husband agreed, told me quickly while I was half-asleep and rushed out. And revealed he has 2 children 10M and 7F. We're both more than willing to limit their contact with our children if they don't stay in their lane. The only events I were invited to are the ones that my husband said he would bring me and the kids along for. Both him and SK's mother are saying I'm an AH because the kids are just excited and I'm taking this experience away from them by being "greedy and weird". I say "Right on time OK. You do not owe her. She barely finished high school and flunked out her first semester of CC. 5yo now and still sleeps in our room because he has night terrors if he isnt right by me at night. My husband had an emergency (dad had a medical emergency) and wanted someone to watch our son. My mom was trying to explain this to him as well and told him that his priorities need to be here with me and the baby. My husband recently picked up a fishing hobby. Yea I agree. I flipped out and said "I don't know, maybe because when I get home I cook then start my cleaning routine then feed the kids dinner then do the dishes then get our 8 months old to sleep then clean the messy bathroom and bedroom then suddenly fall asleep the minute I get in the bed from being exhausted from working on my feet all day long then My immediate reaction was to tell them absolutely not, and I voiced my concerns to my husband. He never complains if I want more tzaziki to go with my gyros (the spiciest I eat, I think). I told him he's not coming so he doesn't need to know anything. And the police won't do much if called, because Leah does have permission to be there if a resident says she does. Like my stress levels would end up too high to let anything progress. IME, you won't get an OB medical provider to say it's 100% OK for him to go -- she could go into labor quickly and then have a medical complication that would require her husband to be involved in decisions regarding her medical care. He usually stays about 20 min or so after dropping them off before leaving. Exactly. Always angry, always controlling. My husband was constantly on the phone ether playing games or talking with with his "bros" being really loud, when I asked him to please hang up he'd hang up the phone and then like 10 mins later call them back. Do not upvote or downvote any of the comments there. I'm on postpartum leave. * Crap. He only just started hanging out with Tim 4 months ago, after he started working with him. Even our kids usually just do a phone call or text, as we do with them. I would say it’s both from my point of view-division of labor and spending time. It’s just a government license. He kept telling my son "I'm not your IL's are disgusting, next time they call you "mama" tell them "oh dear, sorry but I'm not your mama". He sounds like he is fine where things are. My husband has only met her maybe 3 times. Yes she holds the baby sometimes to soothe him, she’s still strict on my sister. AITA for telling my wife that I'm not taking off of work to be present at our daughter's birth? I saw a TikTok where this dude said he had to drive his friend to the hospital when she went into labor because her husband refused to as he was watching The Simpsons. Edited to add update, when my MIL showed up she was super angry outside. So much I won't go into, but its awesome that there is light ahead for you all. He is 3. I have two kids (17m /19f). She took your childhood and was willing to do the same to another child. I told my husband he works for his own pleasure, not for the family. It means nothing to either of us. I would work anything and everything I could pregnant or not if my spouse couldn’t . Not happy, per se, but not unhappy enough to really do something about it. My husband is one of six kids and they all are still in contact and on good terms. ). my boyfriend and i just talked about this yesterday actually! he didnt really understand just how much i was dealing with until i laid out my thought process for him and told him that it was near constant. He said "ok" and that's the "AITA for telling my husband I won’t be going to his birthday dinner since he asked if I would leave early anyway?" For context, I will be 38 weeks pregnant on my husband’s So if all else wasn't insane enough, she's been trying to convince my husband for at least 3 months to quit his job (search and rescue) and go work with her so they can spend more time Emotional manipulation is her number one go to behavior to try and get people back in line. It's not like he needs money for an emergency or something he just wants 50% of profit going forward. So you bet your ass husband became king of the couch for nearly a year until I was finally able to transition my son into a toddler bed next to my bed. I work a decent job and earn most of the money. I really do not know why he was so adamant on it, but he was. We don't spend the entire time together. My husband was pissed but didn't say anything because he "gets it" and sees why it sketches me out but is still bothered that his mom is "alienated". I call my husband and ask where he’s at. Thank you. Over the years, I swallowed my pride and faked smiled with them just to appease my husband and attend events with him. Along with what a horrible husband my husband is for putting me through this while I am sick. But yeah, I probably wouldn't have told him that even though you're not My husband did the same (hospital was an hour away and he kept leaving to check on the dog, which we agreed on before having the baby but I didn’t realize how abandoned I’d feel or that he’d spend less than 2 hours a day with me and miss literally everything). Tell him to act like it. We aren’t dependent The last phone call I received was him telling me his mother would be discharged within the hour and he would be home after dropping her off. I would completely understand. AITA for telling my husband Im not caring for his daughter anymore? My step daughter Sally is 17 years old pretty crucial year for her academically because the grades she will get will affect her next year when she’s a senior. She sees this as me undermining her achievements. ‘ AITA for telling my husband that his culture is garbage and I won’t “compromise” by incorporating it into our family life?’ My husband and I live in the US northeast, where I am from. I When I was proposed to I asked all my family when they would be available and chose my wedding date then that took around a 3-4 weeks during that time my sister and her boyfriend were having a fight and weren’t talking but I don’t know why, but once he proposed my sister asked that we have our wedding on the same day same venue and I have ESH He’s never, ever held a steady job. . AITA? To clarify my husband and I both have our own salaries, we contribute equally towards expenses. Edit: I see where his parents did this for him. She said that all of my quote "problems" aren't that bad and that I needed to stop being dramatic over something that I chose to do. He didn't call/text either of us the whole time I was in labour. " "On the other hand, about half of my ex-girlfriend's It's not like I could control that my liver decided to go nuts and my body decided my kid was coming out one was or another. For emergencies I would probably call him once so it registers as I reached out and then call my ACTUAL emergency person. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: My husband got upset at me for saying I won’t be cooking anymore for him only and will be cooking food I think it’s good. I’ve also decided that I’m not telling his family when I go into labour, and if I must I am not allowing them anywhere near me while I’m birthing the child. Our grandgirls get more of the hype, but they’re in college But I left and I intend to never return. I went to my room to begin getting ready for bed (washing my face, etc. adores her baby sister and is unlikely to ever need to ask AITA for how to go NC with her folks so I’m not gonna complain if she is a little bit It basically came down to him accusing me of prioritizing my job over him and our family and me telling him that this is my job and I can't just not show up to these things. “John” moved here for work several years ago, from the deep south of the US where he grew up, raised with Christian holidays but never attending Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Truth is, OP is not gonna get rid of Leah until he gets rid of Erica. This is just my opinion, but if your husband would end your marriage over the naming of your child (that you pushed out of your privates and after he got 10 months ago I found out I was pregnant for the 3rd time. he asked my older son and he refused because he was going out with friends. " My mom says I'm an AH because I knew my kid has a big appetite and didn't pack more food for her, which apparently makes this my fault and says that I should offer to buy them groceries, which I won't do. At least him coming out early after steroids and heading to the NICU means we just celebrated his 7th birthday with him now in the 100th percentile for height and 85th percentile for weight for his age. He became MORE She says it was an asshole thing to call my husband a liability. AITA? I am writing this from the guest bedroom because my husband and I had a fight. There is plenty of I went out and told him that it was rude to invite ourselves to someone else's house without their permission and to leave the idea alone. Subreddit Announcements He sounds like he intentionally left out info and is looking for validation. Be Civil. Their ass holes too. which is to not tell my family. I feel like, especially in public, you should be your spouse's biggest hype-person. Telling him to “Go to hell” would get me 3 solid days of peace and quiet. AITA for telling my husband to go f himself AITA [link to I get getting so frustrated and sleep deprived that you go into another room to scream into a pillow or something, but he's acting like a BABY is trying to manipulate him. ) But this is such harsh criticism, and in public. My husband said it was the wrong time to do this on her birthday especially after getting out of the hospital. She has the harassment from MIL and him against her to worry about, so there is more than enough justification for him to have this rule. Tell him to move in with his mommy and daddy if he wants his birthday month so badly. Nta I feel where you On the day that I gave birth, Anna's brother got into a car accident. 2. AITA for telling my husband I won’t be calling him when I go into labour? I’m currently 38+2 days pregnant and expected to go into labour anytime as this is my 4th baby. She'll at best only invite Leah over when she thinks OP won't find out. "AITAH For Telling My Husband That I See Him As A Liability and Not A Partner?" Sorry for the long post, it's 2am and I'm crying and tired and worn out. Also my husband and I both agreed we were done after our 2 children, I considered abortion but my husband insisted we keep it . But, about a month before my due date her husband called and asked me if I’d requested him not to be in the room during child labor. I felt so awful, I almost cried. Her husband went so far as calling me a "ghoul" for how I've reacted. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my husband I did not forgive him for his actions and he got upset And put her meal in the microwave. At first, I brushed him off and told him I would think about it because I was only 6 weeks pregnant, and the birth seemed so far off. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: 1 I told my husband I won't host holidays if This is now a Proctologists Only Orifice. I told her that I will not tolerate her behaviour and that if she doesn't apologize to my daughters, wife and doesn't tell my sons she was wrong we won't be visiting for Christmas. His brother moved away when he was younger and even though they're now 2 hours apart, they still regularly talk and play games online together. Some background: my son’s father and I split up before our son was 6 months old. I don't think I could go through it if my husband didn't show. They’d have a better life in foster care. My husband works 6 days a week until 11 and saying he does that for selfish reasons might have been an asshole move. I was really uneasy with this because of my traumatic time the second time. If he can't make you a priority now, you never will be. My SIL even had the audacity to call me Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. He was a work then home guy but he still found a way to cheat. She keeps sending my husband articles though on statistics of children in foster care and telling him we could’ve prevented this. If he can go out of his way to tell them not to call you but call his best friend it seems like he didn’t want you to know especially if this is a running theme in your relationship. I never let anyone disrespect me, because I don’t play that. Please consider your daughter, husband and yourself as priority and do not let her pull your feelings away. My mother shut the door and that's when things hit the fan. AITA for not caring that Jona needs help and telling them it's not my problem? ETA: just want to add here that I have met this woman twice, for at most 15 minutes each time. He said he couldn't skip the trip even if he tried and claimed that because he missed several work trips in the past 6 months, he's worried he might lose his job if he declined to go. He either adds some spicy stuff, or he eats whatever I eat (his GI issues has him eating less spicy anyway). My dad abused my mom and I’d never invite him to my wedding. He is usually very level headed and financially savvy, but I had to be the one to push him and his family for some sort of plan of how this would all work. Im not on great terms with my mil, im actually no contact with her. Everyone had a few drinks, enjoyed the night. That's crazy. The reason for this is because your husband is out of line, unhinged, and a danger to you and your baby. I thought my husband of 15yrs would never cheat but he did. (Example: my husband loves sweets so I call him the cookie monster occasionally with friends/family, knowing it won't stop him from grabbing a cookie or make him feel bad about himself. Do NOT contact the OOP. AITA for telling my half siblings I won't drop my dad for them? I 34F have been with my husband (37M, we'll call him Nathan) for 8 years. Our biggest problem is cleaning. Start by asking him for money for groceries, rent, utilities, and everything else. he kinda had a lightbulb moment and realized that his mental load was being lightened bc im always on top of things and promised to be more I will try to make it short. We have a 2 month old son. He wanted to go again tonight. When they got married I was asked what I want to call him. Let your son be angry, he will do one of two things stay angry or get off his butt and start pulling his own weight. I'm not telling you to leave him or not. "AITA for calling my husband selfish for not wanting to go on vacation with us?" Background: I (37F) and husband (37M) have been married for 10 years and have 3 children. He says he’s at his parents house having a barbecue and he’s obviously drunk. I'll preface this by saying that my husband (Luke) M32 does not get along with my parents. She been wanting the new iphone 15 and I told her if she upgrades her scores and gets at least two A+ we will buy her AITA for telling my husband and his coworker to stop providing lunches for him? you’ve moved far from feminist and stepped into the realm of supremacist. If I knew he was going to do it anyway I’d pull that out, aware that it wasn’t going to be anywhere near as hurtful as when he decided to do it as a form of punishment/manipulation/abuse I'm 36 and in 2020, the man I was with for 11 years started emphasizing thr fact that he wasn't my son's biological dad nor was he a legal guardian (we have been together since 2009 when my son was 16 months old, he had no issue up until then when anyone would refer to him as my son's dad, including my son). She didn't cheat, lie to, and harass him. I am the non-spicy one, my husband does like hotter food. Keep all discussion contained to this thread. That's a decision only you can make. My husband blew up at the boys for what they did but they said they were just trying to prank her since it's the norm and they always prank each others. Your husband works his tail off so you don’t have to. My mom told my sister if she doesn’t stop seeing her boyfriend then she won’t help and she meant it, my mom was going to charge him but my sister puts up a fight. On top of that he also comes NTA. I still can't say that he died only that he passed. She had 2 years of watching my ex get our son maybe 3 times a year for an over night and watched him call me Tell your husband it isn't up to Lily to get your son out of his rut and maybe he needs to spend more time, teaching him how to be a good man and not a mooch. this past week. Since then, I’ve been getting calls from my brothers telling me I’m being immature and hurtful. My dad didn't like either name but said one could be a middle name if they found a name together that they liked. Not even ten minutes later our other brother who is single came in and told us that my husband was making him feel uncomfortable trying to get him and everyone else to go over there to join the neighbors. I'm (30's, female, USA) expecting my/our third child. " Him, her husband & my sisters are calling me an insensitive asshole over this, all saying that there was no romantic aspect to their relationship, & that I'm heartless. Or straight up call him sperm donor. Well cant imagine if she has a baby and goes through labor and calls her mum and not the husband not wanting him worry about them. My son is 3 now and I still don’t look at my husband the same. I told him he was not going, that she could call a technician like everyone else, and that he is not her personal maintenance man. I mean I hollered then I told him to go fuck himself, I would never forgive him and I wished him nothing but the worst of problems and I told him to never call me again and hung up on him. (Like people who go off booze for January) Put his console in a lock box. AITA for telling him to let me go and not call anymore? My ex and i broke up a month ago and tried to work things out. tovl qqfxlm baevem yhirz vkejib dibbvpi nsrj maur fcjq wewwwm